🧠✨ Mental Note: Stop Idealizing People — Learn to See with the Eyes of Truth

There comes a moment in life when you realize it wasn’t the person who broke your heart… it was the image you created of them.

Idealizing someone is placing them on such a high pedestal that any human movement will bring them crashing down.

But what would happen if we learned to see people as they really are — with their light and their shadows — instead of projecting what we want or need to see?

🌱 Louise Hay reminds us:

“Loving yourself is never needing someone else to complete you. It is knowing that you are already enough.”

Many times, we idealize from a place of emotional lack. We want someone to fill a void that only self-love can truly heal. We don’t see them — we see our unmet needs reflected in them.

💡 Wayne Dyer once said:

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

Idealizing is seeing through the eyes of desire, not awareness. It’s refusing to accept the imperfection that lives within every human being. But once we shift our perception, we learn to love from truth, not from fantasy.

🧬 Joe Dispenza shares from a scientific perspective:

“Your personality creates your personal reality.”

When you idealize, you’re constructing a mental version of reality that doesn’t always match the facts. You’re activating emotional circuits based on illusion, which inevitably leads to pain when reality knocks on the door.

📖 A Biblical truth:

Jeremiah 17:5

“This is what the Lord says: Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the Lord.”

This isn’t a call to hate, but to remain conscious: putting blind faith in flawed humans will often lead to heartbreak. Our hearts must stay anchored in the divine, not in human projections.

📘 Book of Mormon – 2 Nephi 4:34

“O Lord, I have trusted in thee, and I will trust in thee forever. I will not put my trust in the arm of flesh.”

Nephi understood it well: even those we love can fail us. But God never does. When we anchor our hope and trust in the eternal, we become less vulnerable to disappointment from the mortal.

🎬 Film recommendation: Revolutionary Road

A powerful movie that portrays a couple who idealize each other — until the burden of reality tears them apart. A raw lesson on what happens when we love the idea of someone more than who they truly are.

🧘🏻 The Miami Buddha says:

“Idealization is a form of control: when the other doesn’t meet your image, you suffer. But was it their fault, or your expectation?”

So much wisdom in letting go of the need for perfection — and simply loving what is.

🌤️ reflection:

Don’t idealize — get to know them.

Don’t place them on a pedestal — listen to them.

Don’t imagine them better — observe them.

Love with your feet on the ground and your heart in the heavens.